想跟大家分享一個好消息,
我獲得了2021的 #黛安娜人道主義獎 The Diana Award。
*English version below*
獲得這個獎,是興奮,是感動,更是意志堅定的。
而它的意義,是肯定,是責任,更代表從今而後,持續無懼,溫柔而無畏。
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我記得收到獲獎email的那天,手機掉落在了桌面,我用雙手摀住了臉,一句話也說不出。當下發抖的我,深吸了氣嘗試和緩情緒,卻又激動的忘記了吐出。那不僅僅是因為不可置信,因為驚喜也驚嚇,更多的,是喜極而泣的感動,是無法言喻的撼動。我知道,這是一個對於從事人道救援與社會關懷的青年,莫大的殊榮,超乎言喻的肯定,但我也知道,那當下的激動,其實都不是因為我得獎,而是因為,在這個獎中,我感受到,我們的努力與相信,真的真的被看見、被支持了,衷心感謝提名人與評審團的肯定。
即使很多時候,我們會因為人們的不重視,而感到灰心;會因為人們的不願信任,而感到憤怒;更會因為人們的漫不在乎,而覺得自己好像真的很傻很天真。但在這天,好傻好傻,傻到真心、全心相信,並且用盡全力在小紅帽推動著月經平權,推動著人們都不應再因為任何認同、或與身俱來的差異或特性,而受到任何不友善待遇理念的我們,是真的真的被世界聽見了。也在今天,踏出了一個前進路上的里程碑,一個讓我們可以更堅定地喊出,「我們不會放棄,會持續努力,會一直走到這個世界不再需要小紅帽的那天」,這樣一個珍貴而美好的時刻。
關注月經議題,踏上推動平權的這條路,於我而言,是一輩子不做,會感到力不從心,會日日覺得不舒服,覺得無法入眠的事。這背後的原因,其實只是因為,我打從心裡相信,這世界上的每一個人,都是重要的,都應該有權利真實,也都值得被自己與他人好好對待。我也深知,要走向一切成真的那天,必須得要有更多的人,一起用自己舒適的步調與方式,從生活當中,開始改變。因此,我希望自己可以參與在這些改變之中,看見與感受改變的發生,但我更希望,自己可以不只是少數人中的一個,而是多數共識中,同樣在努力的其中一人。所以我開始了行動,踏上了倡議之路,也持續期待與呼籲,更多的人,一起成為改變的力量——因為每一個你,真的都同等重要,也都不可或缺。
獲得這個獎,於我而言,除了感謝,還有提醒與責任。
我知道,這將是我們在推動平權、消弭貧窮、嘗試讓世界可以真的一步一步邁向那更理想的樣子的這條路上,一個好難忘且意義重大的記憶。但更重要的,是從這天起,從獎項成為過去的這天起,我們更清楚地了解到,自己為什麼而做,自己想往哪走,走到哪裡。而這份肯定,也提醒著我們,接下來的路,我們將要持續無懼無畏、溫柔且堅定的走下去,無論沿途將有多少難關、挑戰、失意與磨難。
這個殊榮,更提醒了我們除了在過去,也要在接下來的每一天,滿懷感謝。
因為無論是持續相挺的夥伴們、給予我們高度信任的個案們、亦或是所有身在世界各地,選擇與我們並肩、支持我們的每一個人,都不是偶然、不是應該,更不只是幸運。我們將會持續做好手邊每一件我們所及、可以做好的小事,讓你我希望能一起看見的明天,真的有機會能發生。而我相信,這也是我與團隊最能夠表達感謝的方式,更是我們從零走到一,都不曾忘記,也不曾放棄的態度與堅持。
我也想藉這個機會,謝謝所有從 小紅帽Little Red Hood 成立至今,曾經或現在仍在關注、分享我們的行動與內容產出的你;謝謝透過各種方式,支持著鼓勵著我們的你;也謝謝曾經提供我們建議、回饋、甚至是挑戰的你;更謝謝,總是與我們並肩,總是做我們最強後盾的前輩、夥伴、讀者、捐款人們,因為有你們,自始與我們一起走在這條崎嶇蜿蜒的道路上,我們才能走得如此無懼、享受、更踏實而無後顧之憂。
感謝這片滋養我的土地,我的家,臺灣。
作為第一位獲獎的臺灣人,我想說,能在填寫獲獎資料時,堅定且自信地與執行團隊溝通,表達我希望能在國家名單上加上臺灣的訴求,並在後來真的看見名單上加上了臺灣,是一件讓我深感驕傲與感動的事。因為是這片土地民主自由的風氣,熱情、樸實而真切勤奮的人們,讓我深信,發聲可以是如此自然的事情,而愛,也可以如此簡單卻富有力量。是這片土地孕育了我,而我希望只要有任何一丁點的機會,我都可以盡全力,讓臺灣的美與善,被更多人看見。
謝謝我的家人,還有每一個提點我、叮嚀我、支持我、鼓勵我、擁抱我的摯友們。是你們,讓我相信,自己可以是一個有力量的人,也有機會能將這樣的力量分享出去,讓更多的人,同樣相信,其實我們每一個人的存在與真實,本來就足夠美好。
我們生而不同,但正因為這些差異,而使我們各個獨特且重要。
願終有一天,人們不再因為生來的特質與認同,而受到限制與感到困擾,也願你我都能成為生活裡的光,相信著自己,更溫暖著別人。
我們是真的可以,讓這個世界,有機會變得更好一點點。
林薇 2021.07.21
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I have got some great news I would like to share with you all.
I am both humbled and honoured to be recognised as the Diana Award Recipient 2021 – one of the highest accolades a young person can achieve for social action and humanitarian efforts.
Winning this award was exciting, inspiring, and made me more determined than ever. On the other hand, the acknowledgement also meant the responsibility to continue the journey with fearlessness, gentleness, tenacity, and strength.
When I received the email notifying me of winning the award, I instantly dropped my phone onto the table and covered my face with disbelief. My body was shaking. I took a deep breath to gather myself but was too excited to even remember to exhale. My emotions, however, were more than astonishment. There was immense happiness accompanied by tears of joy. I knew, for a youth striving to devote myself to providing humanitarian aid and care to society, this award was an acknowledgement beyond my imagination. The emotions which overwhelmed me was not for myself to win this award, I knew, it was that our (Little Red Hood Team) hard work and beliefs were recognised and supported! I sincerely thank the judging panel and the nominator for their appreciation.
This journey has not been easy. We have experienced frustrating times and moments that almost made up give up. But now, receiving this award meant that we are finally being heard by the world for our belief to strive for not only menstrual equity, but that people should not be mistreated for being who they truly are.
Today marks a precious milestone in the journey ahead, where we can shout with conviction that, “We will never give up! We will continue to work hard! We will work towards the day that the Little Red Hood is no longer needed!”
Personally, menstrual-related issues and advocacy for equality were something that I could not ignore and keeps me up at night if nothing were being done about them. I believe that everyone in the world deserves to be themselves and treated equally. However, I knew, to achieve this goal, more people will have to change with pace and manner comfortable to each their own. I hope to be part of these changes, to see and feel the differences, moreover, I wish that more and more people could join this movement. Therefore, I began my path of advocacy and hereby encourage anyone who sees any worth in the issues I proposed, to be the difference and become a driving force for changes- because you are all equally crucial for the realisation of the future we strive for.
Today will live on as a significant memory full of gratitude, reminder, and responsibility. More importantly, this award gave us a clearer picture of why we work and where we want to work towards. It also prompts us to strive without fear, to be gentle but firm in the faces of challenges, difficulties, failures that are bound to come. This honour reminded us to live every day with gratitude because the friends, partners and beneficiaries around the world chose to believe and fight alongside us. Their supports were not mandatory, nor by chance, and not just luck.
We will continue our work to the best of our ability and hopefully, make the differences needed for the future we all wished for. This, I think, is the best way that my team and I could show our appreciation and stay true to our roots.
I would like to take this opportunity to thank those of you who followed Little Red Hood from day one and shared our content or actions; thank you for all the different forms of support you have shown. I want to further thank those who provided us with suggestions, feedback or even challenges; you fought alongside of us as predecessors, partners, readers, and doners. You gave us confidence, joy, and the ability to traverse this rugged path without worry.
I would also like to thank Taiwan, the land and home, which nurtured me with everything I needed. As the first Taiwanese recipient of the award, I confidently expressed my wish of adding Taiwan to the country list for the award. Thanks to the award development team, Taiwan was proudly added onto the list. It was the democracy and freedom of our land with the passionate, honest, and hard-working people that led me to truly believe speaking our mind was such a natural thing to do. Love is simple yet powerful. My country nurtured me to who I am today, and I would like to let more people see the beauty and the goodness of Taiwan, even if it were only a small portion.
I want to thank my friends and family, who provided me with advice, support, and encouragement. You allowed me to believe that I, myself, could become a strong person and that I could spread this belief and show everyone that simply being ourselves is good enough.
We were all born differently, which is precisely why everybody is unique and important. One day, I really hope, people would no longer be restricted and affected by their inherent traits, identities, and beliefs, and that you and I could become the light in our lives and spread the warmth to others.
Together, we can make the world a better place.
Vivi Lin 21 July 2021
#2021DianaAwards
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【勉強意願 vs 練習負責】 #什麼叫溫和且堅定
上一篇聊到亮亮不想上游泳課,有一位讀者提到另一種想法「這是溫柔的勉強孩子」來針對這點聊聊!
💡大家覺得正向教養是什麼呢?不勉強孩子、順從孩子的選擇嗎?
📌正向教養的家長最常碰到的問題【分不清紀律】
以為什麼都得尊重孩子意願,講道理到孩子同意,因此常背負寵溺孩子的罪名。
成人常常在替孩子做正確的決定時,孩子不見得欣然接受,這時候我們要尊重孩子的不想要,還是執行孩子的需要呢?
#尊重跟放縱的界線每個家庭都不一樣
我跟好亮的親子生活是我融合各種派系讀過的理念,從中選擇我能接受的執行,很難以正向教養或是蒙特梭利一言蔽之。
我選擇站在蒙特梭利(孩子的發展)的根基執行正向教養~在學習才藝這件事,我看的角度是「 #自由與紀律」
在蒙特梭利裡自由與紀律是正相關的,而「放縱」就是缺乏規範的自由。
🔸現在許多人號稱「尊重」孩子,實際上可能誤會了尊重的定義不知不覺的放縱孩子,這對孩子是沒有任何幫助的。
📌成人的責任之一就是教會孩子「責任」在哪裡。
現在許多家長都很「尊重」孩子,孩子想上什麼課便安排,去了幾次不想去又取消,或是因為擔心孩子不喜歡而只上單堂體驗課。
🔸我認為學齡前的孩子最需要養成的習慣是「堅持與負責」
許多時候不是孩子「真的不想」卻因為你支持他「隨便不想」而養成不堅定的習慣。
💡孩子說要學游泳,去了幾堂哭著說他不要游討厭水。
到底是討厭水呢,還是討厭練習?
💡孩子吵著說要學鋼琴,去了幾堂說好無聊不要上課。
到底是不喜歡音樂呢,還是耐不住性子無法接受穩紮穩打,族繁不及備載⋯
🌟小小孩的自由與紀律是正相關的,當你輕易的讓他放棄,他怎麼得到堅持之後甜美的果實。
💡那什麼是正向教養呢?
我認為是讓孩子知道無論如何都愛你。
以這次的例子來說,我希望讓亮亮知道~媽咪愛不愛你跟你上不上游泳課沒有關係,我不會因為你不想上而否定你。
🔸既然沒有關係,為什麼我要堅持上完這一期游泳課?
我給亮亮有限制的自由,參照的根基是「紀律」
他可以選擇想要上任何才藝,我不會去看衰孩子:你運動神經不好不能上足球課,你不夠專心不能上圍棋課,你上次xx沒上完這次不能再決定要上課...
但是亮亮必須上完整期課,這是我跟他自由選擇才藝的規矩(我跟亮亮事先都同意)
📌講到正向教養,大家常聽到的連接詞是「 #溫和且堅定」
💡什麼叫做溫和且堅定(be gentle but firm)呢?
溫和:更正確的解釋是「對孩子的尊重」
堅定:是成人「對自己、當下情境的尊重」,堅持且同時不帶有情緒的讓孩子理解你的界線。
🌟我們可以透過三個步驟練習溫和且堅定,我用亮亮不想游泳的案例示範。
1⃣️同理孩子(讓孩子感受到父母親理解我的心情)
發
媽咪還不會游泳的時候,也不喜歡同學潑我水,不喜歡臉上濕濕的,我會覺得有點緊張~如果這期媽咪陪著你一起練習後你還是不喜歡,下期亮亮可以決定不要續報。
2⃣️溫和堅定的執行規矩
但是,我們約定好了,亮亮自己選擇要上的游泳課,就要上到這期結束。
3⃣️允許孩子有情緒
亮亮扁嘴的點點頭,告訴我他會一直練習到最後一堂課,之後他就可以不要上了對不對?
謝謝亮亮願意遵守約定,勇敢的努力練習,媽咪認為你有對自己選擇上游泳課這件事情負責。
如果你好緊張,可以朝窗戶揮揮手,媽咪也會對你揮揮手。
如果你覺得難過,可以哭哭,也可以想要媽咪抱抱~下課後媽咪會準備你許願的晚餐,一起跟你在這一期的游泳課努力下去。
📌許多時候替孩子做正確的決定都是比較難的。
以這個案例來說,我如果選擇結束亮亮的游泳課其實省事多了。
在沒有午睡又上完游泳課的日子一打二根本悲劇😂
平常習慣八點上床睡覺的好亮,因為上課加在外吃晚餐的關係最早也是八點多才到家,要上床大概都要九點了。
我選擇帶著亮亮一起練習「對自己下的決定負責」
這段過程我很累,也許亮亮也不好受,但是我希望透過這件事情,亮亮可以理解我很樂意給他選擇的自由,也代表著他有必須承擔責任的後果。
親愛的亮亮,我不知道這期結束後你還喜不喜歡游泳課,但希望我們經過這段練習,成為你成長上的養份。
我想在成長過程中,孩子不可能每次都選到內心嚮往走的道路,一帆風順。
但是我希望孩子能明白,無論選擇哪一條路,易走或難行,媽咪都願意陪著你一起前行!
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Courtesy of 56 years of constant practice. I'm getting better and better at maintaining a healthy relationship with myself. Another year older, another year wiser and I keep advancing in the #SelfLove department. Happy 56 to me ! ( It's still Dec 9 here in the States, guess I'm gonna celebrate again tmrw, off to bed now, nite nite ! )
Thank you all for your continuous love and support for letting me be me !!
The biggest gift you can offer me is to commit to advocating for Self-care and Self-advocacy.
#SelfCare - a journey that has no end. It's a conscious act that one takes to promote their own physical, mental and emotional health. ( #Exercise improves your mood and gives you an improved sense of well-being that can help prevent and treat mental illnesses like depression ). I love staying in shape because it makes me feel good and somewhat Superior, lol...
#SelfAdvocacy - the ability to speak up for yourself and the things that are important to you. Don't be afraid to ask for what you need and want and tell people about your thoughts and feelings. Not only you know your rights and responsibilities, you speak up for your rights, and you make choices and decisions that affect your life.
Someone asked me what's the biggest challenge during the process of reinventing myself. #SelfDoubt - there'll always be people that are unsupportive of your goals. Naysayers or critical people who actively say things to discourage you. There are also those who think you're stupid for missing out on opportunities. Truth is, in order to continue to be the advocate for natural beauty routine, health and wellbeing, I did turn down multiple commercial skincare product endorsement jobs, simply because they contradicted my beliefs. Ok, I'm stupid 🤪
My Story
People often ask me how on earth could a 56 yrs old woman look so young? What product do you use?
My answer has always been the same since I was 28. Self-care, healthy lifestyle and I use my own recipe to create my own essential oil products.
It all began in 1992, my then boyfriend's mother, Karen, who led a very organic lifestyle, introduced me to the aromatherapy world. I went from reading a book about aromatherapy to seriously studying it, and then working on creating my own recipes. Creating my own perfect essential oil blend took me a bit of trial and error but it’s a task that was a lot of fun. And of course, the biggest satisfaction came from seeing how my skin transformed over time.
It’s been a long time dream to have my own natural product line. However, in order to prove that my products work, I would need time to prove it. I knew that if I could let myself grow old without aging much, that would be the most solid proof that speaks louder than anything else. I was determined to show the world that leading a healthy lifestyle and using only organic products can truly slow down aging. We can all look amazing and age beautifully and gracefully without any help from cosmetic surgeries or regular visits to your dermatologists or esties.
Good things take time, after countless tests on real humans, a little improvement at a time, slowly refining all my recipes. Here I am, 28 years later...I'm ready to present you with my homemade products. The first in line is "For your eyes only", 100% natural without any preservatives, suitable for all skin types, organically and carefully crafted, and prepared by me, just me, with my own two hands, with love!!
There’s a saying that goes “ If you need to convince anyone else, be sure you’re convinced… “. Yes, I am, very much so…
For those who believe in me, I've prepared a small batch of my babies, all signed and numbered, each in their own little luggage just for you. Guess what? They've already arrived Hong Kong. They're only available through one channel, one person actually, my darling hairdresser, Gary.
Please WhatsApp Gary only if you're interested in my product. +852 98850960
" For your eyes only " is an overnight treatment that helps visibly smooth the appearance of fine lines and wrinkles, firm the look of skin and actively hydrates while you sleep. It's lightweight and so gentle that it melts right on your skin as soon as you apply. It's a 12 weeks' supply if you use it nightly. But if you're desperate like some of my clients, and you wanna see improvement sooner, the bottle will still last you a good 6 weeks 😉
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