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[tạm ngưng duyệt info các shop để chống dịch cho đến khi shipper giao bth 3 miền] 4.9.

[English below] [Vẫn vậy, all free, nhưng dì sẽ có thêm những hạn mục mới cho phù hợp thời cuộc và đối tượng hỗ trợ là newbie mới tập kinh doanh thương mại điện tử]

Năm qua là năm biến động nhưng trong chúng ta đã có ít nhiều bài học làm vốn vào đời :))) , dì đã chứng kiến nhiều buồn vui của các cháu gửi về. Có những nỗi buồn khó nói về chuyện thất nghiệp dài hạn, rã team start-up vì miss Rona… và cũng có những câu chuyện tìm thấy hướng phát triển mới trên thương mại điện tử, nhờ mọi người ở nhà và mua hàng nhiều hơn nhờ những chính sách bình thường mới, “work from home” “study at home”. Vui hơn nữa là dì chứng kiến những chủ doanh nghiệp trước đây nhất quyết chỉ bán hàng tại store nay lại tập tành bán trên sàn thương mại điện tử, dần dà 1 đơn, 10 đơn rồi hàng trăm đơn, riết ghiền, dẹp store mặt tiền vào hẻm lên lầu mở store bán phụ, chuyển qua bán online là chính luôn.

Vì vậy, trong năm 2021, dì sẽ dùng cộng đồng của mình để chia sẻ đến những thương gia, những chủ doanh nghiệp đăng tải thông tin miễn phí, giới thiệu câu chuyên thương hiệu và mặt hàng đang bán,
qua đó có thể dựa vào đó làm bệ phóng đầu sự nghiệp nhắm tiếp cận người tiêu dùng, đỡ phần nào nỗi lo chi phí chạy truyền thông, trong khi sản phẩm mình bán okla

quý doanh nghiệp nhỏ lẻ, những thương gia trẻ có thể tham gia bằng cách hoàn thành form ứng cử sau:

🥰 Dành cho seller xốpi mới biết đến vụ này
(hoặc mới biết dì) ko yêu cầu chi phí nào, chỉ cần điền form
mảng fashion https://forms.gle/S34cx2SYvD8zyWmy7
mảng Bách hóa/ mẹ bé https://forms.gle/LK9qSVzdBj1ivZh79
mảng SKINCARE/BODYCARE/MAKEUP/ BEAUTY/ HEALTHCARE https://forms.gle/RFPx3XNfd5CY3iZK8
mảng Điện tử/ gia dụng phụ kiện phone https://forms.gle/bS9jeNt95RypVzdg8
mảng văn phòng phẩm, nhà cửa đời sống thú cưng
https://forms.gle/y8w48AE7gHwv5nDZA
🥰Dành cho những shop đã lên sóng nhưng muốn tính chuyện lâu dài cùng dì: https://forms.gle/yru4y4zybTuCXxWo6
🥰Dành cho seller xốp pi đã từng được lên sóng và muốn tiếp tục thông báo chương trình sale nhanh, khỏi viết nhiều.
mảng bách hóa, nhà cửa đời sống, văn phòng phẩm https://forms.gle/e31edEjRYmXPutBe9
mảng fashion nam nữ https://forms.gle/8qpaDqghdWo4sCFKA
mảng skincare bodycare https://forms.gle/b6kc1B1yngei1yuR7

* tham khảo đợt rồi 4.4 mấy seller dì duyệt cũng cho cho exclusive sale chấn động nè https://www.facebook.com/badinulo/photos/2847393805575631

------- Dành cho các cháu- độc giả của dì -----------
Có thể yêu cầu review sản phẩm, các shop trên shopee, hoặc mở thảo luận, tại đây: https://forms.gle/HwDoboPpbcXvCnaC9
Review sách đã đọc đến với mọi người: https://forms.gle/cyAQgwHi3z4joJUJ6

>>>> Dành cho các start-up, doanh nghiệp, agency <<<

For startup, Enterprises, Agencies https://www.facebook.com/badinulo/posts/2296898197291864

Full post English below (July. 2019)
GIVE BACK + HOẠT ĐỘNG TƯƠNG LAI CỦA BÀ DÌ NULO
GIVE BACK and future operation of the page (very long post, but your time is highly appreciated)
P/s: Đây là một bài viết rất dài nhưng mong các cháu có thể bỏ ra chút thời gian để nghe lời tâm sự mỏng của dì nhé.
Vào ngày 30/5, dì có thông báo cắt quảng cáo. Quyết định đấy được kha khá các cháu ủng hộ nhưng cũng có vài cháu đặt câu hỏi tại sao dì lại đưa ra quyết định đấy, thì trong post này dì sẽ giải thích cho các cháu một phần lí do dẫn tới lựa chọn của dì.
Tuy dì không phụ thuộc quá nhiều nhưng dì không thể phủ nhận nguồn tiền quảng cáo thu được từ page Dì không phải là một nguồn thu nhỏ, và việc một fanpage khi có một số lượng theo dõi nhất định thì việc bán quảng cáo là một điều rất phổ biến. Hơn nữa, nhằm thu hút các doanh nghiệp quảng cáo tới với mình thì ta phải có những content có lượt tương tác cao để họ đổ đến mình nhiều hơn. Dẫn tới việc trong một thời gian dài dì chạy đua theo điều đấy.
Đến tầm tháng 9/2018, dì bỗng cảm thấy chán page của mình. Khi trong thời gian đó tất cả những gì dì làm là đăng vài post vui vui vô thưởng vô phạt, may mắn thì đột nhiên post đấy được nhiều tương tác cao, rồi bỗng một ai đó liên hệ quảng cáo xong chỉ chỉnh sửa một vài câu rồi đăng lên và nhận tiền. Dì tự hỏi bản thân, thế đây là những gì mình sẽ làm mãi mãi sao? Rồi 5 năm nữa, page này sẽ như thế nào? Sau khi câu hỏi 5 năm hiện lên trong đầu dì, dì mới giật mình nhận ra rằng mình hoàn toàn không biết sẽ làm gì tiếp với page trong 2 năm tới huống chi là 5 năm. Dì đã từng chứng kiến số phận của một số page lớn vụt lên nhanh trong thời gian ngắn và sau đó lụi tàn thành những page cứ tiếng là đăng link một bài báo. “Thế Nhung ơi, mày có muốn page của mày cũng thành như thế không?” Câu trả lời tất nhiên là không. Và thế là trong thời gian đó, dì chỉ có một lựa chọn duy nhất là khi nào mình thật sự chán chịu không nổi nữa thì mình sẽ dừng hoạt động hoàn toàn. Hoặc, dì nghĩ ra thêm một mảng mới gì đó để làm và tìm hiểu.
Đó là lúc dì nghĩ tới về mảng nhân sự việc làm khi nhận thấy chưa có nhiều group kiếm việc làm cho mọi người mà hoạt động theo kiểu dì muốn. Nhưng lúc đó dì vẫn chưa làm ngay, có điều gì đấy cứ giữ chân dì lại khiến dì chẳng muốn triển khai cái gì cả. Và rồi dì tiếp tục những hoạt động thường ngày trên page và sự chán nản của dì ngày càng cao lên.
Tháng 10/2018, page dì bị hack. Đó là một cú tát vào mặt dì. Thành thật với các cháu, đấy chính là cú tát cảnh tỉnh mà dì cần bấy lâu nay.
Vì sao ư? Vì lúc đấy dì mới nhận ra fanpage facebook nó mong manh tới như thế nào. Mặc kệ cho page của dì có bao nhiêu like, hoạt động bao lâu, chỉ cần nó mất một cái, và cũng chỉ cần một thời gian thôi, mọi người sẽ quên hẳn cái page này và dì tồn tại. Dì không muốn tất cả những gì mọi người chỉ nhớ là “Page Bà Dì cuối cùng cũng chỉ suốt ngày quảng cáo.” Không, dì muốn sau này lỡ page có bị gì thì ít nhất dì đã làm được những điều có ích nào đó, dù chỉ một chút thôi cũng được.
Có lẽ dì cũng được ông trời thương và cũng nhờ một người bạn tốt mà dì lấy lại được page. Dì nghỉ ngơi một thời gian để thật sự định hướng lại về cách hoạt động cũng như số phận của page. Dì sẽ thẳng thắn luôn, đúng là khi mở lại page dì vẫn nhận quảng cáo nhưng đó là để tích góp lại thêm một chút lông cánh để cho page chuẩn bị kĩ càng cho tương lai sau này. Cũng trong thời gian đấy dì bắt đầu triển khai group việc làm của dì, vì dì không muốn lãng phí bất kì thời gian nào nữa.
(link group việc làm của dì: https://www.facebook.com/groups/UnemploymentTherapy/
Linkedin của dì: https://www.linkedin.com/.../b%C3%A0-d%C3%AC-nulo-nhung.../)
Vào ngày 30/5/2019, dì quyết định thông báo cắt quảng cáo. Sau một thời gian, dì nghĩ đó là quyết định đúng đắn nhất trước giờ của mình. Dì cảm giác như vừa bỏ khỏi vai mình một tảng đá nặng vậy, khi dì không còn phải quan tâm tới sự hài lòng của các bên quảng cáo và lo lắng về phản ứng của member trong page. Không phải canh cánh nghĩ content, schedule bài, rồi phải lo canh xem có cmt nào làm đối tác pùn, v.v… Và nhất là, không còn cảm giác mình đang lợi dụng lòng tin của member khi giới thiệu sản phẩm cũng như có thêm thời gian cho cuộc sống cá nhân của mình. Dù trước đó dì từng từ chối một vài bên vì nội dung của họ không hợp với page, nhưng hiện giờ dì được thoải mái hơn về việc chọn những bên mình thật sự muốn hợp tác mà không bị nhiều trách nhiệm đè giữa hai bên. Dì cảm thấy được tự do và cảm giác page chính là của mình chứ không còn phải phụ thuộc vào ai nữa.

GIVE BACK LÀ GÌ?
Để page đạt được ngày hôm nay cũng nhờ phần lớn do chính các cháu và các member của page. Tuy đây không phải là page có lượng like lớn nhất, nhưng nó vẫn có một phần phủ sóng khá rộng với nhiều người. Nếu các cháu để ý, trong thời gian gần đây có một số post dì hỏi thăm về các startup ở Việt Nam cũng như làm khá nhiều về topic công việc. Ngạc nhiên thay, có rất nhiều cháu trong page đã hoặc đang startup hoặc đang kinh doanh, làm việc ở mảng nào đó. Page của dì bắt đầu hoạt động vào năm 2017, tính đến nay cũng hẳn có nhiều cháu đang bắt đầu hành trang vào đời. Có từng là học sinh cấp 3 thì giờ cũng đã vào đại học, có từng là sinh viên đại học thì giờ cũng đã đi làm ở công ty nào đó. Dì còn đang giữ một cái inbox của một bạn hồi còn hỏi dì thích idol nào cho tới lúc hỏi dì có muốn hợp tác công việc không nữa đấy.
Thế nên để cùng các cháu bước tiếp qua trang mới của đời, dì bỏ việc bán quảng cáo mà thay vào đó là Hỗ Trợ Truyền Thông.
“Hỗ trợ truyền thông” hiểu đơn giản là nếu có ai liên hệ với dì với mong muốn sản phẩm của mình được nhiều người biết đến hơn, dì sẽ yêu cầu họ gửi các tài liệu, thông tin liên quan đến sản phẩm đó. Nếu dì nhận thấy sản phẩm đó thực sự tốt và có chất lượng (và đáp ứng các điều kiện riêng khác), dì sẽ hỗ trợ truyền thông cho sản phẩm đó. Dì sẽ không nhận tiền, nhưng có thể sẽ yêu cầu một số benefit, tùy vào điều kiện và khả năng của đôi bên vì dì sẽ dùng uy tín của mình để đảm bảo chất lượng của sản phẩm đấy. Công việc này sẽ mang tính chất lâu dài. Nghe qua thì có vẻ không nhẹ nhàng với đôi bên lắm nhưng đây là điều dì muốn làm để hỗ trợ các doanh nghiệp, đặc biệt là các startup, để phổ biến những sản phẩm chất lượng của mọi người đến với cộng đồng. Ở đây dì sẽ gọi những bạn đang có kinh doanh riêng là “quý doanh nghiệp” nhé.
Tạm thời có hai cách để dì hỗ trợ truyền thông:
1. Đối với các mặt hàng tiêu dùng nhanh (như ăn uống, quần áo, phim ảnh,…) muốn được dì hỗ trợ truyền thông, doanh nghiệp có thể để dì dùng thử sản phẩm của mình. Sau đó, dì sẽ viết review chân thật và không chỉnh sửa theo ý của doanh nghiệp (trừ khi là fact). Tất nhiên, trước khi đăng bài, dì sẽ hỏi lại doanh nghiệp có muốn đăng review này không, nếu quý doanh nghiệp không muốn đăng thì dì sẽ không đăng.
Tuy nhiên dù review hoặc phần cmt phản hồi có phê bình nhiều hơn là khen thì mong quý doanh nghiệp đừng để điều đấy làm chùn bước, hãy chọn những ý có mang tính đóng góp để cải thiện sản phẩm của mình. Thậm chí dù sau khi đã hỗ trợ truyền thông một lần, thi thoảng dì sẽ inbox hỏi để kiểm tra tình hình đấy.
Vì dì chủ yếu ở TP HCM nên ưu tiên các doanh nghiệp ở đây trước nhé.
2. Đối với các startup, để được dì hỗ trợ truyền thông thì quý doanh nghiệp gửi email cho dì bao gồm: kế hoạch truyền thông, giới thiệu về doanh nghiệp, định hướng và nhiệm vụ của doanh nghiệp. Có thể dì sẽ yêu cầu thêm các thông tin khác để làm rõ hơn, và trao đổi với nhau để cùng nghĩ ra cách truyền thông tốt nhất.
Dì sẽ không yêu cầu bất kỳ một khoản tiền nào.
Lí do dì đưa ra quyết định đấy là để cho tất cả các doanh nghiệp dù lớn hay nhỏ đều được công bằng và có cơ hội như nhau. Tất cả sẽ dựa vào chất lượng và độ yêu thích của dì. Không còn chuyện dì phải từ chối bên này chỉ vì họ không có khả năng tài chính như bên khác. Không còn cảm giác áp lực vì tiền bạc. Nếu sản phẩm đấy xứng đáng để được biết tới rộng hơn thì dì sẽ hỗ trợ cho sản phẩm đấy.
Và cái yêu cầu lớn nhất mà dì muốn, là dì mong những doanh nghiệp lớn hay bé nếu đã tin tưởng và lựa chọn dì hỗ trợ truyền thông rồi thì sẽ làm tốt hết sức có thể của mình.
Đây là bước đi thứ 2 trong hoạt động mới của dì, group việc làm là bước đầu tiên.
Thế thì, nếu có cháu nào tự hỏi làm sao để ủng hộ cho dì, thì các cháu có thể làm những điều sau:
- Ủng hộ những sản phẩm trong tương lai tới của dì vì dì có nhiều dự án trong tương lai lắm.
- Ủng hộ những business nhất là của chính các cháu của dì mà sau này được hỗ trợ trên page.
- Ủng hộ những sản phẩm hoặc page/group hiện tại của dì.
Cái page này và các cháu đã hỗ trợ dì rất nhiều trong thời gian gần qua. Bây giờ thì page này không còn nuôi dì nữa, mà dì sẽ nuôi lại nó và tri ân lại cho mọi người.
Thật ra bây giờ có hỏi dì 5 năm tới dì sẽ làm gì với page thì dì vẫn chưa biết đâu. Nhưng dì biết sẽ làm gì trong 3 năm tới, và tạm thời thế là ổn.
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Email của dì là: badinulo@gmail.com, (xin miễn phản hồi booking agency xợ lắm xợ lắm)
tiêu đề email nhớ có tên công ty để dì tìm cho dễ nhé.
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ENGLISH VERSION
On May 30, I announced a cut of advertisement placement on the page. That decision was well supported by some of you but there were some who questioned why I made that decision, so in this post I will explain to you part of the reason for my choice.
Although I did not depend too much, I can not deny that the advertising money collected from this page was not a small source of revenue, and as common sense, “the page when there is a certain number of followers, the placement of advertising is a very common thing. Moreover, in order to attract advertising businesses to the page, we must have high-interactive content for them to pour more to us”. This put me on a race for a long time.
By September 2018, I suddenly got bored with my page. During that time, all I did was post some funny and innocuous posts, luckily suddenly the post got a lot of interaction, then immediately someone contacted me to place the ad and just edited a few caption, then post and receive money. I ask myself, is this what I will do forever? Then 5 years from now, what will this page look like? After the 5-year question popped up in my head, I was startled, to realize that I had absolutely no idea what to do with the page in the next 2 years, let alone 5 years. I have witnessed the fate of a number of large pages quickly flashed up in a short time and then faded into pages that were known to post links to an article. "So Nhung, do you want your page to become the same?" The answer is of course not. And so, during that time, my only choice was when I was really frustrated and I would stop working altogether. Or, I think of something new to do and find out.
It was at that time that I thought about the human resources field when I realized that there were not many groups looking for jobs for people that operated the way I wanted. But at that time, I still didn't do it right away. And then I continued my daily activities on the page and my tiredness got worse.
In October 2018, this page was hacked. It was a slap in the face to me.To be honest with you, it was a wake-up slap that I needed all this time.
Why is that? Because at that time, I realized how fragile Facebook fanpage is. No matter how many likes I have on my page, how long it works, if it takes only one, and it only takes a while, people will forget this page and my identity exists. I don't want all that people can remember is, "Nulo Auntie” page finally ends up advertising the whole day.
No, I want to see if anything bad happened with the page in the future. I can at least do some useful things, even if it just a little.
Perhaps I was lucky enough, and also thanks to a dearest friend that she got the page back. I rested for a while to really reorient the way it works and the fate of the page. I will be totally honest, it's true that when I reopened the page, I still received the ad, but it was to accumulate a little more feathers to make the page carefully prepared for the future. At the same time, I started deploying my employment group, because I didn't want to waste any more time.
(The group names Unemployment therapy:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/UnemploymentTherapy/
Group for sharing shopping deals, offers, events and mini reviews
https://www.facebook.com/groups/NhungLorenMagazine/
And you can also check my linkedin:
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On May 30, 2019, I decided to announce the cut of advertisement. After a while, I think that was the best decision I ever made. I feel like I have just dropped a heavy stone from my shoulder, when I no longer have to care about the satisfaction of the advertisers and the reaction of the member in the page. Not having to think about content, schedule posts, then have to worry about any cmt partner, etc. time for your personal life. Although I had previously refused a few parties because their content did not fit the page, I am now more comfortable choosing the ones I really want to work with without much responsibility between the two parties. I feel free and feel that the page is my own, no longer dependent on anyone else. A win-win situation is from now on, set up.
WHAT IS GIVE BACK?
The page stands today is also largely thanks to support of viewers, and fans.. Although this is not the page with the largest number of likes, it still has a fairly wide coverage for many people. If you notice, in recent times there have been a number of posts I asked about startups in Vietnam as well as a lot of work topics. Surprisingly, there are a lot of viewers and fans on the page who are either starting a business or doing business in a certain area. My page started operating in 2017, so far there must be many viewers who are starting to step onto working life. I know there was a high school student took first steps in uni life, and now has been working for a company( I was still keeping an inbox of a viewer asked me about my fav idols, till she dropped me a professional message for work collaborating enquiry :)).
So in order to continue with viewers through the new page of their lives, I left placing advertisement and replaced it with new activity “Media Support”.
"Media support" simply means that if someone contacted me with the desire to make their products more popular, I will ask them to send documents and information related to that product. If I finds that the product is really good and has good quality (and meets other specific conditions), she will support the product's marketing aspect.
I will not accept money, but may require some benefits, depending on the conditions and capabilities of both parties because I will use my reputation to ensure the quality of the product. This work will be of a long-term nature. It may not sound like a lot, but this is what I want to do to support businesses, especially startups, to spread the quality products of people to the community. From here I will call those of you who have your own business “BO- Business Owner”.
There are temporarily two ways for me to provide media support to BO:
1. For fast-moving consumer entertaining goods (such as food, clothing, cosmetics, movies, etc.) who wants the media support, BO can let me try their products. After that, I will write a honest review and do not make any corrections at the discretion of the business (unless it is a fact). Of course, before posting, I will ask if the BO wants to post this review, if you do not want to post, I will not post.
However, whether my review or the comment section has more criticism than praise, please, BO, do not let that falter, choose ideas that contribute to improve your products. Even though after I have finished media support, sometimes I will inbox to check on your situation.
2. For startups, to get me for media support, you should mail me, including: media plan, introduction about the business, orientation and mission of the business. Maybe I will ask for more information to clarify, and we will discuss with each other to think of the best way to communicate to viewers.
I do not require money.
The reason why I made that decision was for all businesses, big or small, would be fair and equal. It all depends on the quality and my preference. There is no longer, a reason I have to cancel this one because others are stronger in financial power. No more feeling the pressure of money. If the product deserves to be known more widely, I will support it.
And the biggest requirement that I want, is that I hope big or small businesses, if I have trusted and selected the media support aunt, will do your best.
This is the second step in my new activity, the job group is the first step.
Then, if any of you wonder how to support me, you can do the following:
- Support my future products because I have many future projects.
- Support for the business especially of viewer’s business which will later be supported on the page.
- Support my current products or page / group.
This page and viewers have supported me a lot recently. Now the page is no longer raising me, I will raise it and share it to everyone.
Actually, if I am asked what I will do in the next 5 years, she still doesn't know. But I know what to do in the next 3 years, and that's okay for the time being.
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My email is: badinulo@gmail.com, the subject of the email is the company name so I can easily find it.
Nhung Loren (pronounced Ñung Loren)

Protected from a Horse Riding Accident in Iceland

See the cute horse below? I took this photo in 2014 when I was at Laxnes Horse Farm in Iceland with Amilee. It was very cold, with chilly winds blowing that day. The landscape was golden fields, blue lakes and snow capped mountains all around.

We booked a horse riding session and were excited. I mounted my ebony horse, and after some briefing from the instructors, we were allowed to ride on our own, on a huge circular route, back to the horse farm.

Seeing my horse trotting so slowly, I was feeling somewhat bored and wanted it to go slightly faster. As I struck the reins repeatedly on the beast’s back, suddenly, it burst into a wild gallop, as if to say, “You want to go faster? I’ll give you fast then.”

It ran so fast that my feet flew out of the stirrups and now the only things keeping me on the horse were my hands gripping the reins tightly and my inner thighs tightly hugging the horse’s back.

The horse was galloping as fast as those you see knights riding on in movies. I really thought I was going to be thrown off the horse and was hanging on for dear life, with my thighs chaffing and tailbone bumping painfully against the saddle every few seconds. At other moments, I felt like I was flying and defying gravity.

I felt so helpless. There was no one I could call to for help. Even if I shouted, no one would hear me as the next person was so far behind and there were no instructors around.

After what seemed like ages, the horse farm was finally in sight. The instructors waiting at the farm looked worriedly when they saw me and the horse approaching so quickly. They just laughed asking if I was okay, and I laughed too saying I was fine, but really, that was a scary experience.

After the whole experience, Amilee who was on a different horse behind said that I looked really cool riding so fast on the horse. Thankfully she saw the scene from behind and didn’t see my face!

I just recalled this incident yesterday and realized that it can be counted as a near-death experience. A complete beginner like me riding on a horse galloping at what seemed like full speed could be potentially fatal.

I thank God for protecting me and giving me the grace to hang on tightly so that I wasn’t injured at all through the experience. It could have been much worse with broken bones, fractures or worse, a snapped neck.

If you ask me if I would ride a horse again after experiencing that, yes I would! I secretly found it fun. In fact, I did go horse riding again with Amilee in Bali after that. Thank God for a brave, adventurous spirit! 😄

“Praise Yahweh, my soul! All that is within me, praise his holy name! Praise Yahweh, my soul, and don’t forget all his benefits;”
‭‭(Psalms‬ ‭103:1-2 WEB‬‬)

One thing I learned from the experience was that only God can keep us safe. I was in a situation were I felt helpless and there was no one to turn to. Our body of flesh is so fragile and this is a dangerous world. The only thing to do is to pray and cry out to Jesus for help, which I did not do at that time. Back then, I hadn’t matured in the Lord as much yet. Prayer should always be response number one when faced with any danger!

Have you ever had a memorable near-death experience? Testify in the comments below about how God protected you!

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JANGAN IZINKAN IBU LAHIRKAN TUANNYA

Masa awal aku kahwin dengan isteri aku, aku dapat pakej 4 orang anak. Alhamdulillah. Yang mana 2 daripada 4 ni istimewa sikit. Dua-dua aspergers. Sorang ADD sorang lagi ADHD. Paling mencabar sekali tau tak apa? Anak-anak ni sebelum kehadiran aku, diorang ni di manjakan betul. Cukup manja! Semua nak, dapat. Tak boleh kena tegur, mesti menaangis dan membentak. 3 lelaki, sorang perempuan. Masa tu umur yang sulung 14 tahun. Yang second 12 tahun...
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When I married my wife, I got a package of 4 children. Thank God. Which 2 of the 4 is a little special. Both aspergers. Another ADD another ADHD. It's most challenging to know it's okay? These kids before my presence, they are being pampered right. Pretty spoiled! All want, got it. Can't be told, must cry and snap. 3 men, a woman. At that time the eldest was 14 years old. The second 12 years old. Third 9 years old. Fourth of 6 years old girl.

First time entering the family, I've had a meeting done. With gangster style, long hair braids. I'm doing a LIVE FB meeting with children. In the meeting, I just entered the family, so follow my rules. I don't follow their rules.

At the beginning, many people who are nearest have started tripping and spreading stories, not saying that I will hit the kids. The swing bowl is right who reads people from this person's use.

Remember the early marriage, my wife always reminds me of me. If these kids promise anything they need to be fulfilled, they will cry badly and scream. Hard to persuade. Sometimes I want to break my breath and cry. The other one is ADHD if he cries, he can't be angry, he has to say it carefully. Because later he will be raging and coming hyper. The one who added is his own attitude. It's just his problem that he doesn't take the port. The eldest is the most pamper. Ask for whatever the confirmation gets. After that it's urgent to work.

I really don't feel like I'm suitable at all. What should I do? Wash his mother first. My wife cried when she washed her first. I said it's simple. I don't want my son to grow up to die and get everything he wants to wear. Nothing, tomorrow won't be given, he rebel like going crazy.

Everything that my wife says can't do, I prove it to my wife, everything that she thinks is wrong. I made it. I didn't see anyone doing what my wife said. I just tried to bring MCD, then I parked at the Tomyam shop. Look at all the faces that are slammed. But no one is crying.

That's where it all started. Until one part I saw my wife still wrongly. I said it's simple.

′′ Want something big, need a big sacrifice. If you maintain like this, it's too wrong that you have to follow all your child's wishes, you're afraid to say NO and then you're crying and tired of your brother Trust me. Just like this, you'll lose your brother. Choose. ′′ ′′

Hah my wife was shaking at that time.

Yes, it's not easy to fight the mother's instinct. I really understand. But have to remember, you want to be sad until when you just want to entertain the extreme motherhood instincts? How do you want your child to grow up? What's he doing today, he's already big tomorrow. You're poor, he asks for something you can't fulfill. You think he got it? That's the wrong time he just said this sentence.

′′ Why is my mom not like someone else's mom. It's okay. I am not important ′′

Heart was shaking at that time. He didn't tell me 100 times, once didn't let him release such a painful sentence?

I'm nothing, kids like this even more men, have to grow up to be men. Not a bapok, not a Kpop. Man. The world will come far more evil. Responsibility is far bigger. It is compulsory to grow up to be a man. I repeat.

MEN.

That's when my wife slowly became a mad mother. Kah kah kah. The kids were shocked at that time. Suddenly mom is good at screaming? Suddenly mom is good at tunjal head? Suddenly mom is good at slapping? Suddenly mom dares to throw her phone against the wall?

Most power if a child I say near her mother,

′′ Mom doesn't love me, I hate mom.."

If my wife used to hear this verse, she will feel sinful and crying. Now you know what my wife answer?

′′ Once you hate me, 100 times I hate you.."

Stunned again child. Feels like the tactical of playing sentiment is not going to be. Continue to continue doing homework.

After that the scene of running away from the middle of the night, haa my wife is already cuak. Look for me to tell my child to run home. Cleaning up the bag. If you're as a mother, are you rocking? 10-year-olds when they were running home. Other siblings are busy trying not to run away, they insist on running.

I told my wife I'm happy je.

′′ Do not persuade. Just ask him to run the house faster. Go help her pack the bag. Do not worry. I used to threaten my mother like this when I was small. When my mother is stupid, I stay outside for a while and then I will go home because it's scary outside the dark.. if you persuade, don't run away, believe Tomorrow he's busy threatening to run again."

My wife went down and asked her to leave her house faster. This kid won't go out after opening the door. Look at the dark outside. He immediately opened the saji headscarf, making him hungry. It's so hard to look at it.

Want to turn into a Lion, it looks evil. Many will talk about this. You say you don't love your children. If this part is not strong, it will be stupid to be eaten by these words. But you have to believe one thing. This mother and father knows her child better than all of you. He knows so much. Know which limit he can make or not. We who watch from outside don't pretend to teach other people's children, teach our own children first to let go. Look at our children today he appreciate us how.

I was worst being criticized at that time.

He said since my wife married me, my wife's attitude has changed. Getting harder. Fierce with the kids. And many more lah. I'm lazy to take a port. The one who speaks is a woman who has never tasted anything. Work is great. So bored listening to it. But I'm cooking so much, it's normal that the sound of this person's confirmation since childhood has never lived hard, the child and the one that is like diva is usually the same. Just deaf the ear. Focus on the mission for the good of the child to come.

After 3 years, I recently had a meeting with all my children. I ask, did you notice that mom used to be different from now?

All bobbing. Getting more ferocious and crazy people say.

I'm so happy to hear. Let go of that I said.

′′ Try all of you to look back at this day. What's the difference? Neno 8 years old can be brushed by school clothes. Already able to wipe Ayra out. Luth 10 years can wash everyone's dishes. Hoze is the most improvement. From my own world today, you are the most helping to work in your house. 13 years old, washing clothes, hanging clothes, sleeping ayraa, bathing ayraa. And many more. Anish, you are the eldest brother. Thank God. No more pushy. See you already understand the reality of being a brother. Every morning sitting in the kitchen helping mom cook.. that's okay. Proud for a while Dedi. Dedi is nothing, you ask Dedi's siblings if they are rude to his mother, what happens to them. Must eat Dedi's feet. You become a son, you have to be a protector to your mother. Don't make it a slave mother."

All sighs. I'm connecting again.

′′ Do you know why this Seremban house Dedi doesn't install air conditioner near Indeed Dedi doesn't let mom install air conditioner. Let me sleep hot. Learning how to use a fan. Dedi used to grow up but never sleeps in air conditioner, thank God I grew up healthy. Dedi wants anything can't just get like that. So men have to learn how to feel hard. So that tomorrow, you will learn to be grateful. I will remember your parents when they are happy. You'll be close to siblings, tomorrow this is what you'll laugh back when you tell the story. Trust me. All of these are the sweetest memories. Mother and father don't know when will die. Maybe tomorrow we die, at least Anish can take care of the younger siblings."

Everyone was laughing at that time. My eldest child will interrupt in a while.

′′ Dedi, but honestly Anish likes the current mother from mother before. Even though it's fierce, but it's true when I remember it again. All of us are good at all. I just noticed that someone else is 8 years old but doesn't even know how to take care of the baby who is a year old and shower and defecate. Luth has changed a lot. No more crying. Hardworking. Hoze has changed a lot of crazy. Playing with the phone. There's only one problem, when you have a relative, you can come, don't sit in the Just sit down once. Anyway, I swear, Anish loves the mother who was now from the old times. Even though the current mother is crazy saiko! Haha. Mom, you are Queen Of My Heart! Mother is crazy, before Anish didn't understand a lot. When Anish sees mom struggle, Anish becomes a pity. Just saw all the sacrifices of the mother for all of us."

Others bobbing heads agree and laugh with what brother anish he said.

All impressed when I remember back. Until neno's turn, she keeps crying. She really apologizes near her mom.

The most powerful, they are siblings when their aunt wants to ask them to come out. Each one has completed the job of who managed his / her sister's clothes this year, who will beat his / her younger sibling's pampers, who will manage his / her sister's pampers. All of them think for themselves. Talk to each other and manage the equipment of his little brother who is a year old. No need to have a mother with her dedi.

Power, isn't it? Two Aspergers, an ordinary person. The eldest has entered MRSM. It means that the number two child of ADD is taking over.

Even when I'm going back to hometown, my wife just gave me an order. They all clean up their own bags. My wife doesn't even mix a single dust. My wife looks like a big boss today. All homeworks are managed by the child. My wife's duty is to cook. Wash clothes, dry clothes, wash dishes, wash toilets, throw away garbage, shower ayra for a year, all the kids who manage it.

If I don't move, I won't let my wife shout out to other children. But mad at the eldest child. Let the eldest child be stressed. Whatever happened to the younger siblings, I told her mother to kill her eldest child. So when the younger siblings aren't working, fighting, the eldest brother already knows that he needs to be tiaw with his mother later. Didn't say much, he just settled his younger siblings. That's it brother!

Thank God. The story is only one. Our children, we know each other. There's a part of being fierce, there's a part that needs to be There's a part that can laugh. This mother has one veto power, but many are afraid to use it because she is not in other s' language and is so afraid that her child will hate It doesn't mean anything! It's boring to entertain the sentiment of pity that is extreme. You used to be your mother who hit your face, do you hate your mother to big? Nothing. We're fierce because we just want to educate. Not fierce all the time. More than firm. When you see your child hardworking, listen to it, there's a day that will give you a surprise Chocolate or what? Taking a walk to the park. Time with family has to be there.

If you're too spoiled, you can make your child become responsible and the person who will defend your family, I think that the Malay soldiers won't even be training hard as hard as possible. It's better for them to just pray for all the new soldiers. What do you want, everything is given. Wake up late, swipe your hair and then kiss your forehead. Even eating time is delicious. Sleeping at night comfortably, installing air conditioner. Put on the wifi.

What was it?

Before you want to say this person, ask ourselves first. Our 7-year-old child eats, is he good at washing his own dishes? Do you know how to follow your time schedule? Can you brush your own school clothes?

If you're not good at anything, don't make me feel bad about the way other father's mother educate someone's child.

The hardest episode in educating children at this age. Believe me, this will all be a longing for the kids when they leave the house later. And this also makes them siblings get closer.

Patience, victory day is coming! Early sacrifice is the most important. Fight all the wrong feelings that always play in the soul. Only one thing you have to remember, as long as you don't fight with religion. Mom is never wrong! Angry, fierce lah. Do not worry. Continue to educate our ways. Don't forget the power of Veto!

Eh forgot, waimah is a special child. What the doctor said put number two. Accompanying kids like normal kids before but there's a limit. Don't teach him to be a special child since you were young. We know our children again, right? Because I always believe, crazy people when we clap their hands twice when they want to take our food, the third time they will understand and won't take it anymore. That's the crazy person. So, Don't let the child know he's special. Don't disturb her brain. Just entertaining the same thing.

Everyone is like that. If he feels like there are advantages, there is someone who defends more, he will start to get a chance. Can't believe it? You try to pamper your child crazy. Let go of the try in front of you, someone tease him less, you see how he has torn to tears later he will get your attention.

Anyway..

Only one thing I'm still failing. Failed to change their name call among siblings. No call Along, Angah, Bangde. I feel strongly, calling this name also has a certain advantage to put the difference between the younger brother and brother. There is a family aura.

Don't forget, Father's role in psychology is important to be crazy. Because with this mother, no matter how fierce it is, the child is brave to fight. Dad must be good at playing roles. No need to touch, you need to know when you want to have a high voice. When you want to call your child, sit down and talk about others.

Become a child idol.

Trust me, step child and biological child two things that are impossible. Because the power of VETO only exists in biological children. This step child has a risk that you need to face. What happened to them, people will say that you don't love them because it's not your biological child. Painful and sad that sentence is for me. Allah knows how I love them.

I wrote it,
Mr Amir Lake

P / s: In the past my wife was criticized by the Aspie group when my wife said she educated her aspie's child in the way she was a little firm. All sorts of people are teasing, he said that this aspie child will take revenge and kill him. Have to be teased every day. Poor. My wife doesn't agree with my actions early because she holds the doctor's order. Today, I'm asking my child aspie. Tomorrow if mom gets disturbed by someone else in front of you what will you do? What did he answer? I'll hit him enough! And I asked my wife, how about the person who teased her child? He said his child is under control but sometimes he's raging badly until he's about to breath. At the same time today my child aspie is good at cooking, can do all homework and love his siblings so much.

Mr. Amir Lake creditTranslated

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Here's the thing: When I was 18... I didn't know much about life. No one truly ever explained what life after high school was going to be like. They just expected you to know these things and never told you the outcome. The reason I wanted to make this video is so that my fellow young adults don't make the same mistakes that I did. I didn't mention it in the video but GO AFTER YOUR DREAMS! Don't let school and college ruin you. College is a great way to connect and socialize with people, but you can meet numerous friends along the way. Save your money because it will TRULY help you when the first three years of your 20's. Don't give your time away so easily to people just because you're bored or they're bored. Focus on yourself, I mean it. I don't mean study but hone in on your skill set and practice practice practice. Travel when you can but save at least an emergency fund of $1000-$2000. Don't have regrets.

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