關於 working parents problems ，我們在網路上蒐集到這些相關的討論、資訊與評價

I'm having a discussion with my husband about schools opening up physical classes. I'm a bit torn.

I know my kids school is quite compliant with SOPs and they're strict. I'm pretty sure most of the parents will adhere to the SOPs and ensure they are responsible in ensuring they will follow through the guidelines; if there are any suspicions of any their family members are high-risked and/or have been exposed to the virus, they won't be silly to send their kids to school. I'm quite confident of that.

But what worries me is the other schools who may not be as SOP compliant and/or have irresponsible parents who won't give two hoots about it.

My children are in a private school and had access to online classes. We had some teething problems at the start of MCO, but I suppose that was to be expected. Online classes was a different ballgame all together, not just for the students and teachers, but for us parents too as we had to find ways to ensure there were enough devices and space for all our children to have access to elearning. Not just that, Azmi and I upgraded our internet connectivity and even invested in using a landline so there were no wifi disconnection.

(Poor Iman was reported being absent from class because of the wifi stability in her study area - so we quickly got a contractor to fix that problem in case we had to continue online classes this year)

But that's just it. Our children are blessed with resources to make their elearning experience a pleasant.

Some schools only offer 2-3 hours of classes. Some don't have access to laptops/ tablets and have to resort to their parents phones (like my helper's child -- we got Dina an acer tablet when we found out about her predicament).

Some of my NGO friends (and certain balding politicians) have found ways to ensure marginalised children have laptops to use. But then there is the concern of internet connectivity. Orang di kampung macam mana?

So, I understand the "need" to have physical classes again. As the economy picks up, most parents are working and don't have the luxury of someone to be at home to ensure their kid is doing their classes online. IF they have online classes that is.

But at the same time, there's the debate about whether education is more important than the safety and health of our children.

Such a tricky decision isn't it?

What are your thoughts about this?

https://www.therakyatpost.com/2021/01/04/cmco-sop-january-2021/

在家Zoom視訊了三個月，今天終於「出關」見客了，出門不久高跟鞋就「開花」了⋯⋯

是我太重了嗎？😁

沒事，附近有鞋店，舊的不去新的不來。

無論是鞋子還是舊思想都一樣。

想要改善自己的人生，不能夠一味墨守成規。

我們現在活在一個前所未有的時代。

小時後父母說把書讀好，長大就能賺很多錢。

事實證明，夢想和現實往往都是相違背的。

很多人所攻讀的，就算做那行一輩子，也不能開啟他們八字中的財富，更別說有什麼滿足感。

但在這個八運的時代裡，只要你有網路，你就能學習新的知識、新的技能。

你甚至還能結合自己不同的技能和過往的工作經驗，創造出屬於自己獨一無二的職業。

有些客人年紀較大，思想難免保守。

有的客人很年輕，只想解決眼前的問題，無法策劃太遠的未來。

我的工作就是告訴你眼前的危險在哪裡，指引你如何創造自己美好的未來。

只要你肯改，只要你肯學，什麼年齡都不會太遲。

曾經有位師姐說，我的口條很好知識很廣，她期盼將來會有媒體訪問我，這樣我就能更紅。

我笑了。

我告訴她，我不需要。在這自媒體的時代，我可以有自己的電子報，自己的電視台，無需等人挖掘我，或求別人給四十多歲的我曝光的機會。

我命在我手裡，不在她他它的操控裡。

我有這個膽量，我也願意不斷增值自己，我可以為自己創造無限的可能。

你，一樣也可以。

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Been conducting Zoom consultations at home for the past 3 months. Today was the first day I finally stepped out to meet clients. But not long after I was out, my heels "open flower"...

Have I became too heavy? 😁

No problem, there's a shoe shop nearby. Out with the old, in with the new.

Be it shoes or outdated thinking, the same rule applies.

If we want to improve our lives, we cannot remain a stick in the mud.

We are living in unprecedented times.

When we were kids, our parents told us to study well. They said with good education, we would be able to make a lot of money when we grow up.

Truth is, reality is usually the opposite of dreams.

For many people, working for a lifetime at a job of what they studied for in school will never be able to unlock the wealth in their Bazi, much less bring them any fulfilment.

However in this period of 8, as long as you have connection to the internet, you can learn new knowledge and pick up new skills.

You can even combine your different skillsets and past work experiences, and create a unique occupation for yourself.

Some clients are older and are bound to have traditional mindsets.

Some clients are younger and only wish to solve their current problems. They are unable to plan for a future they deemed too far.

My job is to tell you what dangerous potholes are in front of you and guide you on how to create a beautiful future for yourself.

As long as you are willing to change.

As long as you are willing to learn.

It is never too late no matter what age you are.

A Dharma Sister once said, I spoke very well and had very broad knowledge. She hoped that one day, the media would interview me so that I would be more famous.

I laughed.

I told her I had no need for that. In this generation of we media, I can have my own e-newsletter, my own TV station. I do not need to pine for others to discover me or plead with others to give the 40 over year old me exposure opportunities.

My destiny is in my hand, not in the manipulation of others.

I have the guts, and I am willing to continuously add value to myself.

I can create limitless opportunities for myself.

You, can too.

TỪ VỰNG #IELTSSPEAKING -FAMILY

🌿🌿In what ways have families in your country changed in recent years?

▪️women → no longer solely the home-maker: phụ nữ → không còn chỉ là người ở nhà nội trợ, chăm sóc con cái
in the past → couples often had to stay together for the sake of their children/ religious reasons: trong quá khứ → các cặp vợ chồng thường phải ở cùng nhau vì con cái / lý do tôn giáo
▪️now → increases in divorce rates (divorce is now a very easy process): bây giờ → tăng trong tỷ lệ ly hôn (ly hôn bây giờ là một quá trình rất dễ dàng)
▪️cohabitation/ sex before marriage is now socially acceptable: sống thử / quan hệ tình dục trước hôn nhân hiện được xã hội chấp nhận
▪️families → have undergone many changes (due to economic factors, societal shifts, technological advances, …): gia đình → đã trải qua nhiều thay đổi (do yếu tố kinh tế, sự thay đổi xã hội, tiến bộ công nghệ, …)
▪️the number of stay-at-home dads → increase (take on housekeeping and parenting responsibilities): số lượng các ông bố ở nhà → tăng (lo việc nhà cửa và nuôi dạy con cái)
▪️women → focus more on their careers before having children: phụ nữ → tập trung hơn vào sự nghiệp trước khi có con
▪️equally share earning and caregiving with their spouse: chia sẻ thu nhập và chăm sóc con cái với vợ/ chồng
▪️past: men → the main breadwinner of the family, women → stay at home + look after their children: quá khứ: đàn ông → trụ cột chính của gia đình, phụ nữ → ở nhà + chăm sóc con cái
▪️now: both parents → have full-time jobs → share financial responsibilities: bây giờ: cả bố và mẹ → có việc làm toàn thời gian → chia sẻ trách nhiệm tài chính
▪️have children later in life (delay parenthood): có con trễ (trì hoãn việc làm cha mẹ)
🌿🌿What role do grandparents play in the family in your country?

▪️can be a major support during family disruptions: có thể là một người hỗ trợ chính trong suốt thời gian gia đình gặp chuyện
▪️teach values, instil ethnic heritage, pass on family traditions: dạy các giá trị, làm thấm nhuần di sản dân tộc, truyền lại truyền thống gia đình
▪️tell stories about the family history + teach their grandchildren valuable life lessons + create awareness of family roots + enhance a sense of identity and belonging: kể chuyện về lịch sử gia đình + dạy cho cháu họ những bài học cuộc sống quý giá + tạo nhận thức về cội nguồn gia đình + nâng cao ý thức về bản sắc và sự thuộc về nguồn cội
▪️grandchildren: feel more connected → recognise family traits + build a sense of identity, acceptance and self-confidence: cháu: cảm thấy gắn kết hơn → nhận ra các nét đặc trưng của gia đình + xây dựng ý thức về bản sắc, chấp nhận và tự tin
▪️teach their grandchildren about: healthy values and social norms (respect, kindness, patience): dạy cho cháu của họ về: các giá trị lành mạnh và các chuẩn mực xã hội (tôn trọng, tử tế, kiên nhẫn)
▪️give working parents who do not have time to take care of their offspring peace of mind: cha mẹ làm việc không có thời gian để chăm sóc con cái của họ có thể yên tâm

🌿🌿What do you think about single-parent families?

▪️kids in single-parent families → feel a sense of loss: trẻ em trong gia đình đơn thân → cảm thấy mất mát
▪️experience feelings of loneliness and isolation: trải qua cảm giác cô đơn và cô lập
▪️children from single-parent families do less well at school and at work than children from two-parent families : con cái từ các gia đình độc thân học/ làm việc kém ở trường và tại nơi làm việc hơn con cái của các gia đình có cả cha lẫn mẹ
▪️many children with a working single parent live in poverty: nhiều trẻ em có cha mẹ đơn thân làm việc phải sống trong nghèo khổ
▪️single parent (low paid + insecure jobs) → struggle to put food on the table for their children: cha mẹ đơn thân (công việc được trả lương thấp + không ổn định) → khó khăn trong việc nuôi con
▪️children in single parent families → more likely to suffer from emotional problems: con cái trong gia đình cha mẹ đơn thân → có nhiều khả năng bị các vấn tinh thần
▪️children whose mother and father split up → more likely to become aggressive or badly behaved/ develop behavioural problems: những đứa trẻ có mẹ và cha chia tay nhau → có nhiều khả năng trở nên hung dữ hoặc cư xử xấu/ phát triển các vấn đề về hành vi
▪️the demands of income earning, child raising + housework → stress: nhu cầu thu nhập, nuôi con + việc nhà → căng thẳng

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Welcome again to Yayasan Pillar Shared Giving or #KongsiBersedekah program.
This is our 5th series where we cover more city poor families and houses in Semariang area, specifically this time in kpg sg midin.

This time we met and chatted with a 12 years old boy named Fikri, son to Romie and a brother to Wardina aged 15.
As the mother was out working when we visited their house, we caught up with their 12 year old son.
We handed out food package under our Shared Giving program and interestingly found out from the brother that his sister Wardina has not been going to classes regularly for a year.
Reason given was she had no means of getting to school.
One very disturbing fact is the condition this family and many other families here found themselves in.
Everyway you turn outside their houses, under their houses, by the roadside, and open spaces are rubbish dump.
Children play and eat among heaps of rubbish.
Their houses are like stinking pits with little room to breathe or move.

We also included in our list of Shared Giving another family because of historical record they maintained, where 4 out of 6 school aged children left school prematurely.
Puan Hasnah's 2 sons and 2 daughters left school before they finished.
When asked why?
The mother simply answered "we gave our children choice to continue schooling or quit and find a job."
"We advised our children to continue study but if they refuse, we would not force them."
This family is considered reasonably ok economically as the father has steady job and earning above RM1000 per month.
They do not fall under the category of city poor in Yayasan Pillar's list.

Another family is a single mother with 2 children.
Puan Norlidah bt Abdullah has a medical case of liver malfunction, therefore cannot work and desperately need financial help.
She is not getting any kind of aid from government agencies as she just didn't know how to follow up again on her application for assistance.
She keeps no record of her application.
Yayasan Pillar handed out Food Baskets to all the families and offer to assist them follow up with government agencies for assistance where they are eligible or where they have been overlooked.

Briefly the problems shackling these families are poverty, poor health, filthy surrounding, broken down houses and the sheer lack of will by parents to ensure children finished their school.
I shudder to think what future these children will have?
Why are these deplorable conditions of city poor still allowed to go on for years?
Whose responsibility?
Parents? Local YB? Or our system?

One of the ways Yayasan Pillar helps the city poor is through its #KongsiBersedekaH program. The objective of #KongsiBersedekaH is to get community to engage in sharing the arduous burden faced by city poor families on a daily basis. If you wish to help lighten their burden, please don't hesitate to donate to lessen the daily PAIN faced by city poor. ?

The Pillar Foundation (Maybank Islamic)
Account Number: 561190054374
Reference: Foodbank For City Poor

你也可以擁有不動幸福 YOU TOO CAN ACHIEVE PASSIVE HAPPINESS

我們一出生，就從來沒有停止過去追求幸福。小時後，吃喜歡的食物，玩新的玩具，去新的地方，長大後，追求愛情、事業、金錢.......

但有的人，天生八字真的不怎麼樣，小時讀書馬馬虎虎，長大後，要財沒財，要事業沒事業，要愛情沒愛情，原生家庭又給不到她他溫暖。

於是，有些人把希望寄託在孩子身上，以為自己生孩子，也能夠製造一個快樂溫馨的家庭，是他們的人生終極目標。

但是他們都沒發現，他們的八字根本沒有這樣的命。夢想和現實起了對立，有了自己的家庭後，反而煩惱更多，快樂更少。

錢依然不夠用，伴侶原來不是稱職的家長，大家會為了孩子的事吵架、冷戰。

孩子健康又不好、情緒管理差、很難教，女傭讓他們很傷腦筋，兼顧家庭和事業也讓自己不停和時間賽跑，活得沒有自己，也不知道到底哪一天才會雨過天晴。

八字無法改，但是一命二運三風水，所以八字沒有的，聰明的人會用風水來補助自己的運。

我常跟客人說：不要傻傻地吃苦。很多時候，只要把居家風水搞好，很多的問題都能迎刃而解。這基礎做好了，就算您沒有去追求，幸福也會自動降臨您家。

風水如何能夠讓您心安的六種方式，且聽我在這影片的解說。

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Since our birth, we have never stopped pursuing happiness. As kids, we cheer when we get to eat our favourite food, play new toys and see new places. As adults, we chase love, career achievements and  money. 

However, there are some people whose Bazi are really nothing to shout about. When they are young, their academics are so so. When they grow up, they want money but they don't get it. They want a good career, but no, it didn't happen. They crave a good relationship but nah, they never have it. And the family they grow in couldn't give them the warmth in their lives either.

Hence, some of them place their hopes on having children they think belong to them. They envision that they can finally create a loving and warm family. That shall be their ultimate life goal. That is why people work so hard for, isn't it?

But what they didn't realise is that their Bazi were not able to support them in their pursuits. Their dreams and the reality they face every day become a stark disparity. As they have their own families, instead of having more happiness, they get more troubled.

Money still remains scarce, and the spouse turns out be an incompetent parent, causing conflicts and cold wars in the marriage over the children. 

The children aren't any better off. Their health fluctuates, they are poor in emotional management, do not listen well to instructions. With both parents working, getting a good maid is necessary. Yet, this maid becomes another headache. Balancing both family and work starts taking a toll on them. Every day is a race against time. There's no living for yourself like what all those new age gurus preached. Worse is when they have no idea EXACTLY WHEN life will be better. 

We can't change our Bazi. So as the Chinese saying goes, first is our Destiny, second is our Luck, third will be our Feng Shui. Whatever our Bazi lacks, the smart person will make up for it by using Feng Shui to supplement their own luck. 

Don't suffer in vain, when a solution is actually within reach. In many situations, after the home Feng Shui is done right, many problems get resolved.  Once this foundation is laid right, even when you are not actively chasing for it like a mad hamster, happiness will descend into your home by default. 

So how exactly can Feng Shui give you a peace of mind? I talk about the 6 ways here in this video.

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阿彌陀佛，你好！我是李季謙，來自新加坡的風水命理師。我將我的一生貢獻於弘揚佛法和中華玄學。這過程曲折離奇，卻也充滿了許多人生的領悟。

通過我的影音與寫作，我希望能與你分享，盼你也能夠突破自己命運的束縛，真正活得精彩：我命在我，不在天。

人生長短無所謂，最重要的是活得有價值，有貢獻。

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Hi, I am Lee Ji Qian, a Chinese Metaphysics practitioner from Singapore. This journey in propagating Buddhism and Chinese Metaphysics has been full of hard knocks and exciting discoveries.

Through my videos and online writing, I hope to share my journey with you. So that you too can break free from the limits of your destiny and truly live a life you can call exciting. My destiny is in my own hands, not Heaven. So is yours.

It does not matter whether we can live a long or short life.
What matters most is living a life of value and contribution.

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Hey Everyone!!! So for today, I am actually going to go to the eyeglass place to sort out my glasses about the cracking noises. Not much else too exciting to share besides me & Matthew both working today. My parents got us some left overs from a Chinese New Year dinner they went to so I do not have to cook tonight. Thanks for watching & supporting my Channel.