階層：接不住的那一層
近日陸續整理很多陳年資料，深感當年心空，留了太多東西當懷舊，現在整理起來真是負擔。
今天整理到十五年前當兵時期的文件。其中這張，勾起了很多回憶。
是我在基隆當兵時，發起一位士兵家境困難，開始幫他尋求軍中心輔官、地方政府等資源，看看可以如何幫忙的筆記。
那段一年四個月的當兵日子，我遇到非常多「社會人士」，心生很多感觸。
我永遠記得我剛到基隆時，也遇到另一位士兵，他說話不俐落，不機伶，某次跟他聊聊，說他只有國中畢業。
這⋯已經讓我有點訝異。沒想到更驚人的在後面。他突然淡淡地說，自己坐過牢⋯
「我開槍搶銀行，打傷保全的腿」
我⋯我⋯真的不知道怎麼回應。
後來陸續遇到相似背景的，不同原因坐牢的，不同原因輟學的⋯
那段時期遇到的剛好都是非大專兵。這樣迥異的生活經歷，才讓我驚覺，在我慣於國小、國中、高中、大學的經歷之外，不是每個人都這樣走完。
也是因為當兵，讓我看見不同的社會階層，有機會和不同的人互動。
我剛開始用非常大的耐心和真誠與他們相處，發現他們各自的故事，盡量想辦法幫忙解決。
因為弱勢最缺乏「資源」。
我甚至開始教他們讀英文，與他們談心，鼓勵他們很多正面的看法。
以為「單向」春風，可以化雨。
初期，彼此互動熱絡，教學相長，他們讓我見識到很多書本以外的世界。
然而日子久了，不同的觀念造就不同的處事態度和方法。違紀的事情一再發生，彼此關係也無法只當朋友，最終我是抱持一種很挫折的心情退伍。
退伍後，當初交心的士兵們，各有找我。
某次某人打給我，激動說我當記者可以幫他伸張一下嗎？然而他是去當詐騙車手，而且當庭罵了一頓檢察官。
最有趣的就是那位開槍的士兵，某次敘舊帶了一位女子在旁，兩人關係，我看來不熟，卻又正在「加溫」。後來我才突然懂，他是要來跟我借錢，跟這位女子開房間。
幾次過後，說真的，後來我也不知道該如何和不同的人，相處。
而事過境遷，這段當兵經歷讓我累積和不同的人打交道的方法，對後來的新聞採訪幫助很大。
另外最大的成長，是提前習慣了「職場」。原來工作上那些人事紛擾，不啻就是軍隊學長學弟制的縮影，而已。
每次套用就不覺得奇怪，心情就比較平衡了。
我都說當兵的我，是今生最赤膽忠誠的時期。剛入行那幾年，每當遇到灰心時，我都會回去基隆看看。
每次回去，我都能在海港邊看見筆挺的自己。然後重新找回力量。
今天整理那段過去，才更發現當年的赤誠，背後都是一股又一股的內在翻騰，否則我不會留下一封又一封，密密麻麻的日記，以及一封一封沒寄出去的書信。
發生關係英文 在 有關「性」的英文- 看板Language 的推薦與評價
『婚前性行為』的英文怎麼說？
一般來說，有兩種講法，一種是口語常用的premarital sex or illicit sex，另
一種比較正式，就是fornication (婚前行淫或稱「淫亂」)。淫亂(fornication )是指一
個未婚的人與異性發生關係，而“姦淫”(adultery)則是指一個已婚的人，與非配偶發生
性關係。二者都是神所憎惡的罪，根據聖經，都是性方面的罪。
Fornication的動詞就是 fornicate，都是從希腊文 Porneia 來的。
pornography (色情影片、刊物等) 也是來於此字根。
你可能會覺得很奇怪，為什麼 fornicate的開頭是 F 卻源自於 porneia (P開頭)。因為
p 和 f 音常可以通轉，如 telephone的ph的 h不發音，而 p 是發成 [f] 的音。
根據『The American heritage Dictionary of the English Language, fourth Edtion
』的定義，這字的英文解釋為 『Sexual intercourse between partners who are not
married to each other.』Webster 則解釋為「 consensual sexual intercourse
between two persons not married to each other」。
Fornication 的字詞搭配則是 commit fornication 就像 adultery 的動詞搭配是
commit adultery。Commit 後面常接「負面的事情」，一般可譯為「犯…」，
如 commit a crime, commit suicide 等等。
The term fornication comes from the Greek: “porneia”. We get our English
word “pornography” from it. Literally, it means to sell oneself and is thus
associated with prostitution. The technical difference between fornication
and adultery is that adultery involves at least one married person while
fornication is a more general term for sexual immorality that may involve
married or unmarried persons.
另外，Fornication 也常被用在KJV 聖經, 是從porneia譯過來的。
Porneia, from which we get our common word pornography. The word refers to
all forms of sexual activity outside of marriage, especially sex between
unmarried persons. Illicit sex is associated with moral uncleanness and
impurity of the heart and the affections. Illicit sexual intercourse,
adultery, fornication, homosexuality, lesbianism, intercourse with animals
etc.; sexual intercourse with close relatives; Lev. 18; sexual intercourse
with a divorced man or woman; Mk. 10:11,12; metaphorically, the worship of
idols, and of the defilement of idolatry, as incurred by eating the
sacrifices offered to idols.
簡言之，Aultery 和 fornication 都是婚姻外的性行為。
一個是婚後的行淫，一個是婚前的淫亂。
只是現代社會性放縱，婚前性行為(淫亂)不再被視為罪，
而通姦在美國的一些州也被「除罪化」，最近台灣
也在考慮通姦除罪化。
再補充幾點，親人之間的感情常用 affection而
「迷戀」的英文一般說 infatuation 或 have a crush on 某人。
「柏拉圖市戀愛」也就是「精神上的戀愛」可翻成 Platonic love。
「之前的情人」(前男友或前女友」可說是 old flame 或 former flame，
或說成ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend。
而「好色的」英文可說 incontinent, lascivious, lecherous, libertine,
libidinous, lustful, salacious, satyric , concupiscent, goatish 等等。
但口語上常用「horny」來表示「好色的」之意，像我常看「六人行」
就常聽到這個字。
※ 其它一些相關單字：
色情網站 pornographic website
妓院 brothel
男妓 gigolo
肛交 sodomy
性伴侶 sexual partners
性慾 libido
性學家、性學者 sexologist
前戲 foreplay
流鶯 hookers/streetwalker
紅燈區 red-light district
掃黃行動 anti-vice raids
淫褻及不雅物品 obscene and indecent articles
異性戀 heterosexual/heterosexuality
應召女郎 call girl
嫖客 johns
雛妓 underage prostitutes
變性 undergo a sex change/changed their sex
變性人 transsexuals/transsexual
孌童癖的人 pedophile
性騷擾 molest somebody
侮辱、冒犯 affront
為求快感撫摸女性身體 grope
強姦犯 Rapist
通姦 adultery
亂倫 incest （u）
愛撫 caress （n）
性騷擾 sexual molestation
輪姦 gang-rape
雞姦buggery （u）/sodomy （u）； Buggery is anal sex./Sodomy is a sexual act
in which a man puts his sex organ into someone's anus， especially that of
another man.
"Fornication" is the word translated from the Greek word porneia. According
to the New Unger's Bible Dictionary, the word is used of illicit sexual
intercourse in general. The NIV reflects this fact when it translates the
word "fornication" with the word "immorality." It can more specifically
indicate sexual relations between unmarried persons. Relations between
married persons who are not married to each other are termed "adultery." Some
Bible passages, such as Matthew 5:32 and 19:9, seem to include both
premarital and extramarital relations in the general term "fornication,"
while identifying "adultery," as the specific sin of one who divorces his
wife and remarries another.
The Greek word "porneia" is used in a general way in 1 Corinthians 5:1 of the
man who lived with his father's wife. It is used in 1 Corinthians 6:13, 18,
Galatians 5:19, and Ephesians 5:3 of any improper sexual activity. It is used
in 2 Corinthians 12:21 of general sexual sin.
Porneia is the word from which we derive "pornography," which involves
fornication portrayed in writing or in pictures. The New Testament does not
deal with the immoral act only, but also the immoral thoughts leading up to
the act. Jesus spoke against sexual immorality of any sort when He taught
that even a lustful look is wrong (Matthew 5:27-30).
Immorality of all kinds--fornication, homosexuality, bestiality-were part of
the pagan religious practices of Tan ancient societies (most notably Ephesus
and Corinth Paul's epistles again and again confront the sexual immorality
prevalent in these cultures, and call for Christians to avoid it (1
Corinthians 6:18), and to come clean from it by repenting of it (1
Corinthians 6:911).
In the book of Revelation, worshipping idols is also called "fornication."
The term in Revelation is a metaphor for intimate companionship with
something other than the true God. This also calls to mind the immorality
often associated with idol worship among the Canaanites and other neighbors
of Israel, as well as the immorality associated with modern society in its
pursuit of "gods" other than the true and living God.
The prohibition against fornication rests on the ground that it discourages
marriage, tends to make the education and care of children to be more
insecure, depraves and defiles the mind more than any other vice, and thus
makes one unfit for the kingdom of God (adapted from New Unger's Bible
Dictionary, page 441).
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