關於 it doesn't matter to me中文 ，我們在網路上蒐集到這些相關的討論、資訊與評價

My best friend's page...A friend who always inspires me, a good example...

Teachings from Karmapa Trinley Thaye Dorje
大寶法王聽列泰耶多傑的開示
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2017-06-27
To deal with someone else's anger or aggression, the best method is simply to meditate on compassion and loving-kindness, because, it seems that the aggression that one experiences from others has to do with, not having dealt with one's own consciousness' stream.
面對他人的憤怒或侵略時，最好是簡單地反思慈悲。因為，我們感受到他人的侵略的原因是我們沒有處理好自己的意識流。

2017-06-24
The difficulties we face can help us grow. 我們面對的困難有助我們成長。
The difficulties that we face right now, from a Bodhisattva's perspective, are what is known as 'great teachers,' like wish-fulfilling jewels, because they help us to grow and develop. They are 'wish-fulfilling challenges,' 'wish-fulfilling teachers.' All of the obstacles that we face - be it health-wise; with regard to our mental development; or concerning our income; our livelihood - well, basically any difficulties, challenges or obstacles concerning day-to-day life - all of it, if we can take it the right way, can really, really help us to grow.
我們現在面對的困難，在菩薩的角度看，可以稱為’偉大上師‘，像如意寶珠，因為它們幫助我們成長和發展。它們是‘如意挑戰‘，’如意上師‘。我們面對的所有障礙 – 可能在健康上；有關智力的發展；或跟入息有關；我們的生計 – 基本上日常任何難關、挑戰或障礙 – 所有的，若我們可以保持正確的態度，真的真的能幫助我們成長。

2017-06-20
The idea of wanting to benefit others is a quality that comes very naturally to us. It always helps to have an example, to have a teacher to remind us of this quality. However, it is innately there, so it is easy for us to relate to this idea.
我們自然生起利益他人的願望。一個榜樣常常會有幫助，有一位導師去提醒我們這品質。但是，它是與生俱來的，因此我們很容易地跟這想法聯繫起來。
In terms of a practical way of engaging with this, we have to think of all sentient beings, and it starts with all those that are near or close to us. In a way it is helpful, practical, and much more effective to begin like this, to focus on the nearest individuals. Afterwards, by continuing, persisting and putting effort into maintaining that attitude, engaging in supporting others becomes easier. I think that the benefit is not only for now, not only for the moment, but it brings peace and meaning in one’s life, and at all times.
在實行上，我們需要念記所有眾生，而由親近我們的開始。在某方面上，專注於最親近的人對開始訓練時有幫助、是踏實的，和更有效率。然後，持續、堅持，和用功地保持這態度，能讓我們更容易地支持別人。我想益處不僅在當下，不只是一霎那，而能讓一生也得到平和跟意義，恆常地。

2017-06-16
Be a good example 成為一個好榜樣
We all have a child nature inside us, no matter what stage of life we are in. When we say to a child 'go to sleep,' of course it doesn't work. Instead, children will learn actually mostly through watching what others do, how others walk, talk, behave and express. They are always watching. This is why, no matter where we are in life's journey, since we still have this kind of child nature in us, all it takes for that person to change is for them to see a good example. And then the habit takes over and they want to mimic and imitate that. So if we wish for something or someone to change, we have to be a good example.
無論在生命那一階段，我們都有孩子的品性。當我們告訴小孩：『去睡吧』，當然這是不行。反而，小孩大多會透過觀察別人學習，人們怎樣走路、講話、行動和表達。他們常常在觀察。因此，無論我們在生命的那一階段，因為我們內在有孩子的品性，看到一個好榜樣就足以令我們改變。然後構成習慣，和他人會希望效法那行為。所以若果我們希望某東西或某人改變，我們要成為一個好榜樣。

（英文原文及圖片來源：https://www.facebook.com/17th.Karmapa/
（中文翻譯由本FB翻譯小組負責。若有錯漏，請見諒。節錄或載列文章內容以原文為準。）

(中， English)

刚才在亚比机场办登机手续时，
柜台的马来女员工说着流利的中文。排在我们后面的是一对中国夫妻，不会马来文也不太熟悉英语。本来我想帮忙翻译，突然柜台的马来女员工用流利的中文和他们沟通。我看在眼里，突然很感触。

在沙巴，会讲中文的马来同胞本来就是很普通的事情，因为在这里的马来同胞会把孩子送来华校受教育。从小就会交到很多会说中文的马来朋友，在华人咖啡店也能看到马来同胞和华人一起用餐，就是一件普通到不能再普通的事情。

但来了大城市 - 吉隆坡生活后，
我才惊觉发现这不是一件普通的事情。
在这里，政府是打压华校的。

长大之后，才真正发现到我来自的地方沙巴，
是那么的美丽。当时还迫不期待的要想要离开。。。😭

真骄傲呢，可以身为沙巴之子。

I was checking-in in KK airport, the counter lady was a Malay who speaks good Mandarin. Behind me was a China couple who doesn't speak Malay or English, i was about to help but suddenly the counter lady(A Malay) starts communicating with them in Mandarin, i stood there and smile.

It is really not a big deal for a Malay to speaks mandarin in Sabah because the Malay parents would send their kids to Chinese School, Kids would learn and speak to each other in Malay and Chinese. Chinese and Malay would also enjoy their lunch together in Chinese restaurant, it really is not a big deal in the place i came from - Sabah.

Until i left home and live in the big city - Kuala Lumpur, only i realized it was actually a BIG deal.

When i was younger, i always thought about leaving home. Now i know how beautiful Sabah is..

I am a proud Sabahan, no matter where i go,
i always tell people about our home.

#sabahan #sabah #kk #malayspeakschinese #kkia #kkairport #airasia #沙巴
#沙巴之子 #landbelowthewind

从老公的角度看试管婴儿疗程

当一对夫妻要做 #IVF试管疗程时，做丈夫的应该用什么态度来面对？常常有网友告诉我说，我的老公精子不好，可是他还是不能戒烟戒酒，好不配合。要知道，不孕症不只是女人的责任，男人也是有责任。这篇文章，是以男人的角度出发，里面分享身为丈夫应该如何帮助太太一起度过疗程，文章是英文内容，是奥莉爸爸写的，奥莉爸不会中文。分享给大家😊

IVF Journey, A Husband’s Perspective

Hi all, before reading further I would like to say this is NOT an instruction or tips for IVF and hopefully readers will understand my poorly written English. This is my journey as a father of the IVF baby girl. Why am I sharing all this? It is because my wife had a Facebook page of her IVF journey at https://facebook.com/ivfjourney2015/ and she told me that majorities (not all but most) feedback indicate husband not supportive enough to commit into a journey of IVF. I’m not a true supportive husband either, least I made up my mind to make it happen.

Let’s start with “Why IVF?”
We went for a fertilization test and results with;
Husband: Teratospermia (Human language, sperm is weak for fertilization process)
Wife: Unexplained infertility (I think this is easy to understand, there is for the confirming reason for this result and we don’t go for further test after it because it will consumes too much time and money)

We married and planned to have children late 2011, both our ages were 37 in 2015 because of late marriage. My wife introduced IVF because she does not want to give up and feels regretful in future and so do I. Maybe because I did too many regretful things in the past, now I do not want this happened to my wife. At least I do it better then ignoring it.

Preparation for IVF
Financially, I know it will involve amount of 20k – 30k “Ringgit Malaysia” in the whole process depending on the situation and this is only one chance for me. I don’t have the money for a second attempt because I need to allocate funds for delivery if success.

Mentally, I do some studies/research on IVF. The whole journey took 50 days and in one of the process my wife needs to do a self-injection daily. I quickly asked my wife “Daily injection?! Do I need to fetch you to clinic daily to do this?” She answered “No, we need to do this ourselves”. A final question from me going to be “How?!” After we sat down and discuss, we comes into conclusion and I will do the injection for her. This was the most painful and nervous moment I ever experience by poking a needle to my wife’s belly EVERYDAY!

Lifestyle, 6 months earlier. My wife told me the NO’s, NO alcohol NO smoking NO midnight wandering NO stress. I said, I will fly up to the skies like butterfly if I able to do all the NO’s. It’s like a mission impossible. How can a man like me not go out to social with friends without alcohol and smoke? The joke was sleeping early! You want me to social with my friends in breakfast or lunch time? At this time, she softly said “I really wants to have a cute baby in future, it looks more like a family. Furthermore, I don’t want to have regretful moments in future”. All these words came out of my love (wife), her words melted in my heart deeply. I told her “Ok, we will go for it BUT you will need to promise me ONE IMPORTANT thing. No matter the process success or not we only have one attempt we need to accept the truth and live happily without regret in future.” she agreed.

Commitment, this is not some empty promise. I made a huge commitment to change my lifestyle into zero alcohol, tobacco and lesser stress. If comparing the pain and suffers my wife will take in this journey e.g., injection, medication effects, hormone changes and all the effects from pregnancies to delivery, mine looks more alike small potatoes (looks much more simple). Trust me guys, don't compare it, if you do and more likely you're going loose badly. For the sake of making a better future, I had fulfilled this commitment.

IVF Journey Phase 1 “Unskilled Husband Injection”
Day 1, doctor consults us for Buserelin injection. I need to inject this medication into my wife's belly each day sharp at 8AM. The nurse had guided me side by side to do the first injection.
Day 2, I started my first injection to my wife's belly without anyone guiding beside. Feels a bit nervous because this time I'm doing it all by myself. I try to hum some music to distract my wife's from looking at the needle while injecting but still she is looking at it.
Day 3 - Day 15, sometime the injection hurting and causes bleeding/bruise to her. I need to find a new spot to inject every time and sees her bruise makes my pain in the heart too. My injection skills improved dramatically. She even told me that she doesn't feel pain like the beginning stages.
Day 16, follow up 2nd checkup. Doctor said, everything goes smoothly and added another medication to inject called Gonal-F to take home and start injecting on day 23. This message never surprises me because I've been told earlier, but just that the price to pay for this medication is quite costly.
Day 17 - Day 22, nothing much on these days and we just stick on the plan as usual.

IVF Journey Phase 2 “Stressful Night”
Day 23, Gonal F injections start today. This needle doesn't look same as those earlier, it comes with medication in it and look like a pen.
Day 24 - Day 26, side effects of the Gonal F medications started. My wife is feeling irritation at the injection site, fullness, bloating and tenderness in the lower abdomen due to the increasing size of the ovaries. Her mood changes dramatically as I can tell, but she endures it and tell me she can handle it.
Day 27, follow up 3rd checkup. Doctor said wife has eggs total of 12 and is ready for Transvaginal oocyte retrieval "Human language, Egg retrieval" at day 31.
Day 28 - Day 29, final injection of Gonal F. At day 29 night, I inject Ovidrel to wife belly to that causes the growth and release of a mature egg (ovulation) for day 31.
Day 30, resting whole day. Finally, we had a day without injection and worrying about holding any needles. Today we wondering about the egg growth, not knowing will the eggs grow more or still the same amount of 12.
Day 31, egg retrieval. 8 egg success retrieves and I give out my sperm for oocytes selection on the same day. Wife given cyclogest for oval protection after the egg retrieval.

IVF Journey Phase 3 “Hopeful Embryo Culture & Embryo Transfer”
Day 32 - Day 35, rest at home. We had pillow talk every night concerning about the growth of an embryo. We also look at sample growth stages of an embryo from the web to see what the current growth stage is.
Day 36, another hopeful and nervous morning. Doctor tells us the result of embryo culture as below;
Total Embryo Retrieve: 8
Embryo Qualified for ICSI: 6
Embryo Success until Cleavage Stage (Day 2 – Day 4): 3
Embryo Success until Blastocyst Stage (Day 5): 2
Embryo Qualified / Recommended for Transfer: 1
Both our eyes looked at each other, knowing only 1 Blastocyst Embryo available to transfer and doctor tell the same after it. I really do not know how to express both our feelings into words here, as we expected to have at least 2 Blastocyst out of 8 embryos and only left 1. We both agreed to proceed this only 1 Blastocyst transfer as this is the only choice we had. It's more likely walking on a 100ft tall string with no supports mission, a single error will fail the mission.
After the transfer process, wife given a room to rest for few hours. A nurse came and give us adjunctive medications, injections and advice while resting at room.

IVF Journey Phase 4 “The Final Moment of IVF”
Day 37 - Day 49, after the transfer. This period is known as 2WW (2 Weeks Wait) with adjunctive medications, injections and be very careful. I just let her sleep/rest more on the bed, I served her every meal in the room. We're also nervous and curious about pregnancy results on day 44, we tested with cheap pregnancy tester and get got a double line on it and we do have a little hope and joy with this result. On day 47, again we test, but this time with expensive pregnancy tester and the results double line again! We're so hopeful and happy at this moment. We really hope this result is true until the next checkup.
Day 50, final checkup. My wife goes for the hCG test by giving a sample of blood, we waited 2 hours for the results. While waiting, nurse guide us to a room to rest. Wife slept and I sat beside concerned on the hCG test results. 2 hours later, the doctor invited us to look for him. Before doctor speaks, while we are sitting down, my wife's eyes were starring in the hCG results number and she spotted the hCG number is 452. She smiles happily while doctor tells her "You are pregnant and congratulations! Come back after 2 weeks to scan for baby heartbeats. And please go out to the counter and ring the bell!”

Just Sharing My Thoughts
By all means, I’m not bragging about my success. I would like to say if anyone is planning on IVF, teamwork is very important and husband play a very important role to increase the success rate. Sometimes, I do feel like a spectator than a participant myself because I never experience any of the medical exams but this is not true. Every injection I put on her belly, I feel the pain in my heart as bad as she has on the belly. Ok, nothing much to share in this IVF journey and next time I might be sharing another journey as a Father! Here is my little baby girl Facebook page奥莉 Olivia Baby - 梁童心心 https://fb.me/oliviababylove if you wish to see her growth updates.

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#ivf #ivfmalaysia #ivfjourney #baby #alphafertility

孩子取名，不跟著家譜就是大不孝 !?

在新加坡，幾乎每個父母都會為孩子取個洋名。有的家長覺得這樣比較容易叫孩子的名，有的認為這樣才跟得上時代。

但我們必經是華人，刻在墓碑上的，終究是華文名。華文的源起在歷史中已隱藏著玄秘的力量，因此一個好的中文名有著巨大的力量來加持一個孩子八字的不足，不是英文名字能比得上的。

有的父母取名憑當時的感覺，有的父母有家譜的傳統。前者可能感情用事，後者就一定比較有智慧嗎？

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It Is Unfilial Not to Name Your Child After the Family Tree Book?

In Singapore, almost every parent will give the child a Christian name. Some parents say that it is easier to call the child with an English name, while some regard this as keeping up with the times.

But we are Chinese after all. What is engraved on our tombs will still be our Chinese names. Due to its historic mystical origins, the Chinese language is much more powerful in empowering the child with auspicious energies for the inadequacies in his/her Bazi. A name from its English counterpart just doesn't measure up.

Some parents name their child based on their emotions at that time. And there are parents who are obliged to follow the Family Tree Book. While the former is sentimental/emotional, is the latter necessarily a wiser move?

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阿彌陀佛，你好！我是李季謙，來自新加坡。我將我的一生貢獻於弘揚佛法和中華玄學。這過程曲折離奇，卻也充滿了許多人生的領悟。

通過我的影音與寫作，我希望能與你分享，盼你也能夠突破自己命運的束縛，真正活得精彩。我命在我，不在天。

人生長短無所謂，最重要的是活得有價值，有貢獻。

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Hi, I am Lee Ji Qian, a Chinese Metaphysics practitioner from Singapore. This journey in propagating Buddhism and Chinese Metaphysics has been full of hard knocks and exciting discoveries.

Through my videos and online writing, I hope to share my journey with you. So that you too can break free from the limits of your destiny and truly live a life you can call exciting. My destiny is in my own hands, not Heaven. So is yours.

It does not matter whether we can live a long or short life.
What matters most is living a life of value and contribution.

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很多人問我穿什麼樣的裝備騎車，這篇直接通通脫下來介紹！這些裝備以國外來講都算中低價位。不過不管你怎麼選，有穿永遠比沒穿好。流汗不要流血囉。A lot of people have asked me what my gear is. I am taking them all off in this video to show you. These gears are priced in the low to medium range. It doesn't matter what you choose, wearing gear is always more protective than not wearing anything! Sweat beats bleed any day.

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